Love, courtship and marriage in rural Bhutan is about Bomena, a “custom whereby a boy stealthily enters a girls’ house at night for courtship or coitus with or without prior consultation”. Commonly misunderstood in Bhutan as ‘night hunting’. The use of a vernacular word Bomena, not ‘ night hunting’, a term loaded with ethnocentrism and ignorance of the custom, tells a lot this original village ethnography